Chapter II

Further Information On The Nature of the "Cosmic Partner"

by Michael J. Lincoln aka Narayan S. Khalsa Ph.D.

The title of this paper is in reference to the fact that it is a continuation of the presentation of findings regarding the phenomenon of the “cosmic partner”, first presented in the preceding paper, “Made In Heaven”.

The most singularly important thing about the cosmic partner is that it is a direct Divine intervention in the people’s lives designed to eliminate the barrier to the manifestation of their Destinies. The intervention is two fold. First in the intense period of the relationship, the focus is on the learning necessary to be able to carry out your function. Then in the longer haul, the partner is one of a number of resources available to facilitate your manifestation. Because it is a Divine intervention, it is the most intense teaching experience possible, just about. It comes because there are significant barriers to your fully being who you came to be, and it therefore is in effect a “roto rooter” process. It is often tumultuous, painful and disruptive, and it invariably raises all sorts of complex and profound issues arid experiences along the way. The intended result is your taking on much more of the archetypal manifestation of yourself - your true Self.

The partner is selected to precipitate the necessary processes and circumstances to be the ultimate lesson in what needs to be learned. It focusses you on what’s missing in your relationships and in yourself. They are cosmically calibrated to be just what the Doc ordered, no more and no less. Ideally it results in your completing with your stuff so you can fly.

However, by its very nature, it is the ultimate high stakes. It is a make it or break it opportunity event. They force you to play it all the way out -- your Destiny or your fate, your choice. Needless to say, they are deadly serious business. It throws the spotlight on all dark and dank corners of your life and questions all your preceding self assumptions. It is your “Lady or Tiger?” situation, where you in effect are a Roman gladiator standing in front of two doors. Behind one is a beautiful lady who is to be your mate. The other door conceals a ferocious and famished man eating tiger. You have to choose one of the doors. It is either a pole vault into higher consciousness and manifestation or a plunging to the depths of degradation and despair. They can make you or break you. The best and the worst are activated by such an intervention.

They are always tricky to manage due to role conflicts, ecological effects, ethical considerations, temptations and deflections from your spiritual path, etc. A successful cosmic partner process requires deep spiritual integrity, ecological responsibility and personal accountability. It requires follow through, integrity, self restraint, soul searching and commitment to the cosmic laws. It also demands a non defensive openness and willingness to grow and to give and take. It is no picnic! It is a test of consciousness and cosmic commitment, and you must transmute the second chakra sexual energy to higher levels for it to work. It is most certainly not a “romantic love” relationship, with it’s projection of inner unmet needs and putting God’s face on the partner, appearances and experiences notwithstanding. Almost always, the partner is not ones “type” (which is more one’s “moth to flame attraction” parent stand in). They frequently occur with varied individuals because there is a need to blow out one’s impediments and the marital relationship is not the arena to do it and the spouse is not the right kind of person to have the needed effect.

They don’t always turn out happily either. If the partners don’t know what it is, they will often avoid each other and they go into a paranoid freak out about it. If one partner is aware of what it is and the other isn’t, it can result in an aborted mission of unrequited connection. When one partner is responsible and the other is not, it can become the ultimate test of your mettle and your Destiny. If both are irresponsible, it can wreak havoc in their lives and in the lives of those around them. And if the lesson is not learned quickly by one or the other or both, the intense period can continue for a long time with constant intense pressure to resolve the issue, with many irritations, ups and downs and difficulties.

Another aspect of the phenomenon that needs to be noted is that it is not just the partners that are profoundly affected.

Virtually anyone and everyone in the ecologies of the people involved will be impacted to a great degree by the process. And as is true of all spiritual lessons, it will be what they need, not necessarily what they want. For instance, one common phenomenon that occurs is the “dump”, in which one of the partners suddenly unloads all their resentments and felt deprivations about the dissatisfactions and shortfalls of the spousal relationship onto the spouse. The cosmic partner relationship brings all these imperfections into bas relief, with particular emphasis on your deservingness of better. It can be quite an experience for the spouse! Then there are all the auxiliary people involved such as friends, neighbors, working place people, relatives, children, etc., who are directly or indirectly affected in various ways. All are brought up short to evaluate their own values, lifestyles and commitments in one way or another. And as is true of the partners themselves, it is often a make it or break it situation in terms of how to use the experiences and the potential stakes involved in the outcomes.

The lessons to be learned from the situation are to be found in all the “funny thing” synchronicities that occur, in the characteristics of the partner that stand out, in all the ecological play outs that happen, in your internal experiences that result from it all, and from the inputs from various sources like dreams, intuitions, spiritual teachers, meditations, scriptures, centering and the like. Your task is to find out what the focus of the phenomenon is and then to heal yourself in those areas. You should not unduly focus on the relationship, as that is not what the real issue is. To focus on the relationship itself is apt to bring on your fate, and it greatly enhances the chances of damaging those around you. Uplift yourself and your partner, and continuously note the lessons involved in every experience. They will each be loaded with multi-facetted and multilevel meanings that are the real meat and intention of the process.

Despite all the profundity and potential dangers involved in the process, however, because it is a Divine intervention and in order to provide the motivational where withall to carry out all the necessary undertakings involved, the experience itself can be quite pleasant, especially at the outset.

They are very cleansing, healing and renewing, and when it hits, it often feels like the first day of creation. Your consciousness changes and everything feels fresh and bright. The partner seems to be the essence of beauty, wonder and love at all levels. It’s real unconditional positive regard - agape in action, a bliss experience. There develops a heart center hunger for the partner and they feel a total fit, with great delight in looking at each other. Time seems to stand still in a kind of timelessness that is reminiscent of spiritual states. There is a deep but detached love, without the obsessional and emotional commotion of romantic love. The partner is experienced as a totally trustworthy confidante who gives completely safe love strokes. Of course, after the initial intensity period, all this fades into a kind of quiet comfortableness and camaraderie with each other.

At the beginning, there is a tremendous rush of second chakra sexual energy, although only when you are in the partner’s presence. There is not the longing that occurs in romantic love relationships. But in their presence it is often all hut overwhelming, like a powerful electromagnet. This is only one of the incredible kaleidoscope of extremely intense experiences when they are in each other’s presence during the initial period. This sexuality is a necessary ingredient, as it provides the extreme need for intense involvement so that the needed learning can take place. It provides the driver for going for it despite all the risks and growing pains involved. Even people who are sexually shut down are affected by it. It is a spiritual healing energy, and it should be related to as such. It needs to be transmuted to higher forms of energy, not acted on. It is a form of tantric energy and it is loaded stuff. Talking about it, sublimating it in elevating activities such as meditation and yoga or even vigorous exercise helps to control the intense desire to act out. Of course, there are some cosmic partners that don’t have this starting with a bang characteristic. These people have usually worked out their stuff in such a way as to not need such a supercharged boost to get on with their Destiny-preparation.

With regard to particular kinds of partners, the mirror has been found to be of two types. In one, a healthy narcissism is created by presenting an irresistible replicant to fall in love with who is exactly like yourself. So much for all your self hatred! However, there is also the “Medusa mirror”, who provides inescapable and intensely dramatic feedback about your negative manifestations. And of course, you have to play out all your worst in order to get the lessons with dramatic impact on the ecology, with its associated feedback. All in all, quite a learning experience for all involved!

That concludes the latest learning’s about this extremely important phenomenon. Because of the extremely pivotal nature of the present era, there are large numbers of such relationships occurring at the present time. And of course, not all of them are being handled well either by the partners themselves or by those affected by the partnership. It is still quite difficult to delineate how such relationships are different from romantic love attachments, even though there is a vast and overwhelmingly important difference. All that can be done for the present is to continue to put out updates on what is involved in these very special and important relationships as they occur.

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Michael J. Lincoln
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Redmond, WA  98073